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Why?! #United4Marriage

29 Mar

This week has been amazing. Since Tuesday, my Twitter and Facebook timelines are full of notes about the Supreme Court hearings on same-sex marriage. Every newspaper I frequent is talking about it, American or German, it doesn’t matter. And I haven’t gotten tired of it yet. With every post I see, my heart starts to dance more because it’s not just us gays fighting for it, there are many straight people supporting this cause.

You might ask: “But Willie, why do you care? You’re not an American citizen.”

That’s true, but what’s happening in the US is not so different from what is going on in Germany. Most of our parties support same-sex marriage as do the majority of Germany’s people. Our highest federal court will be hearing another case about this in the summer too and, given recent rulings, will grant us rights we don’t have yet. Another point is, I truly believe that if America falls (i.e. grants marriage equality) it will send a powerful message to many other countries, mine included.

164201_10151541126023281_2118869774_nThe Human Rights Campaign started a meme where you change your icon to a red square with an equal sign in it to signal you’re supporting marriage equality. A lot of my German friends may not know what the deal is with this sign and even bestfriendboy had to ask me if it was about what he thought it was about (and yes, it was). I changed my profile pic on Facebook and Twitter nonetheless, well I tweaked it a bit because I find it confusing if everyone has the exact same picture so I blended my normal pic with the meme one.


I read a post today about how it’s stupid and lazy to do so because the Supreme Court judges won’t care about your icon. You’re not even friends with them; they can’t see it which makes it of no value at all. But I digress. It may not influence the judges decision but showing support is never a lost cause. You cannot know what impact a simple thing like that might have on another person. The gay teenager or closeted adult could suddenly see how they were wrong in thinking their straight friends wouldn’t be on their side. It may ease coming out for a lot of people just knowing that those they went to high school with don’t think it’s an abomination that he/she wants to be able to marry the person he/she loves and is committed to. Or in my case, casually implying I may not be as straight as I appear to be without having to tell everyone in person ;-)

I will never understand how allowing the gay couple two doors down from you will threaten your straight marriage or all those other arguments our opponents have. They’re just stupid to me. Blame it on me being one of those inverts that seem to be the problem. However the countries that already support marriage equality like Canada or the Netherlands haven’t imploded or been worse for it. I really don’t know what people that are against it think will happen! An apocalypse? I don’t think so! I believe it will be a far less issue once we’re granted the same rights.

I’ll leave you with one of my favourite scenes from The West Wing.

(Maybe now I’ll be able to sleep after I got all the gibberish out of my head.)


Politics, Morals & Marriage Equality

1 Mar

Last week our highest federal court (the federal constitutional court) ruled in favour of same sex couples. At the moment it is not possible for a gay couple in a civil union to adopt a child equally. Only one partner can do so. The court ruled this unconstitutional, as it should be. This is just the latest ruling in a series of court decisions strengthening the rights of same sex couples in civil unions. Ugh, civil unions, why we cannot just call it marriage and be done with it, I will never understand. It’s about falling in love and committing to another person – a human being – not a gender, but our politicians don’t seem to understand as much.

The party which is in charge of my country is actually the one holding back giving same sex couples the same rights as heterosexual couples. Interestingly, this is the same party I have always sided with when it came to elections because all the others are not even real alternatives to me because of others reasons.

This party is actually consisting of two sub-parties, the CDU and CSU. The CSU is the bavarian part of the party and is led by Horst Seehofer and mostly conservative. Those conservatives are cock-blocking the inevitable change which is on the forefront in Germany as it is around the globe. After last weeks court decision the rest of the CDU is finally coming around and ready to grant couples in civil unions the same rights when it comes to tax cuts and health benefits as married couples have. Meanwhile Horst Seehofer is holding on to his mantra of ‘a family can only be between one man and one woman‘. Ugh.

Excuse me while I go vomit into the nearest trash can about his narrow-mindedness. Those words! Coming from an adulterer like him. In 2007 it became public knowledge that he was having an affair with a much younger woman after she gave birth to his ‘bastard’ child, while still being married to his second wife. Well hello there Mr. Infidelity, who the hell are you to speak about what makes a family and a marriage?! You can’t even be faithful to your own wife!

And while I’m on the topic of our highly moral politicians, let’s talk about our President, the highest politician of this nation and should-be example. He may not be doing much more than representing Germany as most of the power lies in the hands of our Chancellor, he is still the freaking President. He is a former pastor, living in sin for over 10 years now, while still being married to his wife. While all of this is happening, tolerated and accepted even, it is still considered unreasonable for gays and lesbians to be able to marry each other, be parents and file their taxes like every other federally recognised couple. This is just too much for me to comprehend.

Maybe I shouldn’t try to reason with politicians – apply moral standards to them. I understand that they are only humans but still, I expect a little bit more from the highest – most powerful – of them. We look up to them for guidance of this country, putting its fate in their hands, trusting them to not wreck us completely. Or this is at least what it should be like. However, I cannot take our President serious, not when so many politicians are playing judge and jury with other peoples lives. How can the words of an adulterer be considered when it comes to marriage and family? How can one love be considered worth less than another? Or am I simply expecting too much?

I don’t think I am though. I believe it should be ok for a kid to have two mommies or two daddies instead of being in a children’s home or the foster system. However I disapprove of a President of a country, welcoming foreign Heads of State with his mistress by his side instead of his lawfully wedded wife. I believe all love is equal. We are all equal. Loving someone of the same gender doesn’t make one a pervert. On the contrary, I think the more sincere love is showcased in this world the better all of us are for it.

30 Days of Books – Day 05

5 Nov

A book that makes you happy

Previously: Favourite book of your favourite series

There are a lot of books that make me happy, look at Day 1 and Day 2 for example but I’m trying not to repeat myself in this 30 Day challenge so the book that makes me officially happy is ‘Sing you Home’ by Jodi Picoult.

This was my first and still only novel by Jodi Picoult and I absolutely loved it. As I gather from looking at some of her other books, there’s this typical way in which she constructs a book. Splitting it in parts that are told from the main characters of the story. In this book those are Zoe, her soon-to-be ex-husband Max and Vanessa. Zoe and Max have tried for years to get pregnant, they spent all of their money on in vitro but it never works. At the beginning if the novel Zoe is pregnant and quite far along but she looses the child and is naturally devastated.

Her marriage with Max has been crumbling around the edges for a long time and after the miscarriage they split up because it’s too painful for both of them. Zoe is a musical therapist and while she struggles to accept the loss of her hopes and dreams she becomes friends with Vanessa, a high school guidance counsellor. Vanessa is gay though and after s while, Zoe and Vanessa fall in love with each other. They get married and decide to try to have a baby with the few eggs Zoe still has stored at the fertility clinic. They need Max’s approval though and that sets off a whole fight for marriage equality and so on. While Zoe has found her new romance, Max found refuge in a rather conservative church which advocates against same sex marriage…you see where this is going…a big courtroom showdown.

What initially drew me to this book was the title because I love to sing and music is a constant in my life. The note on the back is very careful not to mention any of the lesbian part of the story and so I was kinda surprised but in a good way. I’m quite thankful to this book because even though it might seem stupid but it made me once and for all realise that I’m gay. The way Vanessa describes how she was always different from the other girls in her class and how she pretended to like the guys all the girls had crushes on even though she knew it wasn’t real for her. I found myself in her character on so many levels it was freaky. I read the 600-something pages in a bit over 24 hours which is FAST for me, really fast. I was THAT invested in the story.

Next: A book that makes you sad

Getting Caught Up

29 Oct

I realised that I haven’t written much in October but there was not much happening in my life these past weeks. I’m still too lazy on schoolwork and should definitely look for a thesis and I think I know where I’m going to end but I’m also not in a big rush at the moment. Agh, I’m too comfortable in my procrastinating ways and this weekend my uncle was/ still is here with his family so I’ve been hanging out with them quite a bit. My focus is still a bit lost but I fully plan on catching up with what I should have been doing this week. Thursday is a holiday over here which is always a good place to start with organising one’s thoughts and goals – or avoid it altogether and getting hooked up on Zombie fan fiction.

November will be NaNoWriMo – National Novel Writing Month – and even though I’m not planning on participating I’ll honour all of the writers out there with doing a 30 day book challenge. I’m not sure if this is such a good idea as some of you may be too caught up in your writing while I spam your inboxes with a post every day. Here are the topics I’ll be blogging about the next 30 days:

Day 01 – Best book you read last year
Day 02 – A book that you’ve read more than 3 times
Day 03 – Your favorite series
Day 04 – Favorite book of your favorite series
Day 05 – A book that makes you happy
Day 06 – A book that makes you sad
Day 07 – Most underrated book
Day 08 – Most overrated book
Day 09 – A book you thought you wouldn’t like but ended up loving
Day 10 – Favorite classic book
Day 11 – A book you hated
Day 12 – A book you used to love but don’t anymore
Day 13 – Your favorite writer
Day 14 – Favorite book of your favorite writer
Day 15 – Favorite male character
Day 16 – Favorite female character
Day 17 – Favorite quote from your favorite book
Day 18 – A book that disappointed you
Day 19 – Favorite book turned into a movie
Day 20 – Favorite romance book
Day 21 – Favorite book from your childhood
Day 22 – Favorite book you own
Day 23 – A book you wanted to read for a long time but still haven’t
Day 24 – A book that you wish more people would’ve read
Day 25 – A character who you can relate to the most
Day 26 – A book that changed your opinion about something
Day 27 – The most surprising plot twist or ending
Day 28 – Favorite title
Day 29 – A book everyone hated but you liked
Day 30 – Your favorite book of all time

In other news, I’ve been following the presidential race in the US because a) you can’t get around it and b) it’s quite entertaining and easier than our political races. Much has already been written about Mitt Romney and especially Todd Akin’s new definition of rape. I hope all of you who live in the US and get to vote on Nov. 6th know who to vote for. I’m going to throw a bunch of videos at you in the following of stuff I recently came across, so here it goes then:

First of all, let Joss Whedon, the creator of Buffy, explain to you how a President Romney would equal a Zombie apocalypse.

Then we have Tina Fey speaking out against Todd Akin’s attempt at redefining ‘rape’. I adore Tina Fey and this only makes me love her more (as if that were even possible).

Want to see a bunch of awesome actors telling you to sign the Bill concerning female reproductive rights? Then this is for you #drawtheline because it’s important. Sign the bill at http://drawtheline.org and tell your friends about it.

If you don’t know where you stand on marriage equality, take a look at this.

And last but not least, here’s Ellen making fun of the fact that Bic now promotes pens especially for women. We’ve been using man-pens all these years, can you believe it? Oh Ellen, you magnificent funny lady. She was awarded the Mark Twain Prize for American Humour this month which she totally deserves.

Ok, this is enough for now, I’ll be in your inboxes daily in November. Take care, especially those of you in the vicinity of Sandy. Stay safe everyone!

Happy Blogiversary to Me!

9 Aug

One year ago I created this blog and I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I didn’t know how it all really worked. Most of all, I didn’t know how much I would be needing this medium to vent in the months to come.

Not only writing my posts but also commenting on other’s thoughts was/is a great experience. Nothing like the internet to find like-minded people, right? I love the followers that leave comments on my blog and sometimes I wish there were more of them but I know that I’m not the best commentator either. Sometimes I just hit ‘Like’ to let the person know I was there and read it but I didn’t have the time or brain capacity to write a deserving comment. I love to get to know people all around the world and in 12 short months, there are even some I consider friends. This is remarkable since reading my posts must feel like being inside my head (which is not always a place I would want to be) but they read it nonetheless. A big THANK YOU to all of my loyal readers for putting up with my (sometimes repetitious) posts.

Coincidentally this is my 70th post. It’s neither 50 or 100 but it’s still a nice even number. Well, nice number is a rather subjective thing. I actually prefer uneven numbers, prime numbers are the best. Why you might ask? My answer: First of all because I’m crazy and second, because I like the fact that they cannot be divided by anything else then 1 and themselves. 13, 23, 37…those are really cool numbers to me but round numbers are considered the big celebratory deal so I just roll with it here.

Gosh, what else did I want to say?

Argh, I thought there would be so much more to say but I don’t really want to do a recap of my year in blogging as I feel boring enough as it is.

I’d much rather spend some lines on the topic of marriage equality. First of all, I don’t understand why same sex marriage must be called a civil union, why can’t marriage be marriage and we’d be done with it? Yesterday the highest German court again ruled in favour of marriage equality yet our legislation is more than reluctant to even give gay people in civil unions the chance to have the same tax benefits as straight couples.

The Minister-President of Bavaria, Horst Seehofer, told the newspapers that marriage between one woman and one man must be kept special because only that can be considered a true family because the purpose of marriage and family is to reproduce – to breed – and you can’t naturally do so in a same sex relationship. (This is a loose translation but it’s basically what he said) Strictly following this, every couple with an infertile partner should’t be able to marry or if already married should be degraded to a civil union. But that is just stupid right? Right! And what about couples like my godmother? She chose not to have children with her husband but nobody tells them their marriage, i.e. commitment to each other, does count less.

A child cannot be adopted equally by a same sex couple which is bullshit. Our (german) law would rather let children stay in foster care than give them two loving mommies or two loving daddies. I think this is wrong!

I could ramble on and on and still would not understand it. I can only hope that people and especially politicians will start to realise that it does not matter who you love and want to spent the rest of your lives with.

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