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False Feminism?!

24 Mar

The other day, as I was on my way to uni, my local radio station was broadcasting a report about the previous night’s events during which girls between 16 and 20 years of age were awarded prizes for their social dedication, listing their accomplishments. The purpose of the whole ceremony was to shed light on their achievements and make girls and young women more aware of what they can accomplish. Yada, yada, yada! I couldn’t help but make a disapproving face even though I knew no-one was there to see it.

To me, things like this always seemed faulty, I mean, they’re supposed to specially praise female accomplishments but in reality, does this not widen the gender gap even more?  We give prizes and awards to persons because of their gender not their overall achievements. Don’t we have it backwards there?

When I was in school, girls were encouraged to join Girls Day in order to learn more about male dominated jobs and career choices but I never went. Growing up around two strong examples of the female race (shout out to my amazing Mom and Gran) never let me question my ability to become anything I wanted to which is a great thing as the language of variables, numbers, natural constants and equal signs comes more naturally to me than any language I speak. And I also believe in the explaining powers of diagrams and formulas being more descriptive than words could ever be. I’ve had my own personal Girls Day every day when I cared to watch them handle their lives. You could argue though, that not every girl has these figures growing up and you’re right. It’s sad and I wish every girl had a strong role model to look up to while growing up.

Does it justify though, that we create ceremonies to pat ourselves on the back because what we do is huge for us because we’re women? Does little Lucy care about a stranger enough to look up to her accomplishments and model herself after that?

Nowadays there are also Boys Days so they can learn about mostly female dominated career choices and that makes it less icky for me. As long as we’re all treated equal I have no problem with this, or less of a problem.

I just feel that every time a woman is awarded something because she is a woman it makes me cringe with discomfort. This whole thing is messy and most likely very specific to me but I don’t want recognition of my work because of my gender but because what I did matters and is executed without fault. This is also why I distaste the idea of a woman quota in order to get more women to become executives and managers. Again, I don’t want to get a job because the company has to hire a woman to fulfil their quota requirements; I want it because I’m the best choice for it.

Maybe I’m lucky that way. I’ve never questioned whether I could do something or not because I was a woman. I didn’t feel out of place while I sat in classrooms surrounded by men. Sure, I still live in the academia bubble and the media constantly tells me that women are paid less than men for the same jobs; or that there aren’t enough female executives, professors, engineers and so on. But so far it’s usually been more of a blessing than a curse to spend my days around men. They speak my language without being backstabbing bitches. (This is completely over-examplifying, I know not every female co-worker talks bad behind your back and men are not immune to that either but it’s been my experience so far).

At uni, my gender only matters as I have the choice to go down the stairs on my way to or from the loo. The thing is, the engineering building is the oldest part of my university and it was always a male domain. This means of course, there is only a ladies room on every second floor as opposed to a men’s room on every floor and the office I work on my thesis in, is on a floor without such facilities. This wouldn’t even happen in Sweden as there are single bathrooms men and women can both use.

That’s essentially what I wish and hope the world is/will be like; gender doesn’t matter; race doesn’t matter; sexual orientation doesn’t matter; and disability doesn’t matter. Is this really too much to ask for? I can’t help but think of Virginia Woolf who thought that a writer performed best with an androgynous mind. Maybe all of humanity could benefit from androgynous minds.

'A Room Of One's Own' underlined by Past!Me

‘A Room Of One’s Own’ underlined by Past!Me

All this pitting of sex against sex, of quality against quality; all this claiming of superiority and imputing inferiority, belong to the private school stage of human existence where there are ‘sides’, and it is necessary for one side to beat another side, and of the utmost importance to walk up to a platform and receive from the Headmaster himself a highly ornamented pot. As people mature they cease to believe in sides or in Headmasters or in highly ornamented pots.

Virginia Woolf

I was a Feminist first

21 Jun

Let me start this post by telling you that doing two plays in one day is hard work. Seriously! Today I spent nearly 10 hours at our theater for two performances. Even though looking at the happy and cheerful eyes of 840 kids is extremely rewarding but it is still hard work. Now I’m pretty beat and tired but I still have to prepare something for uni tomorrow. Only, I have to wind down first, which I do by eating candy, watching a movie I already know, oh, and blogging of course.

Now onto this post. Yesterday the faboulous Rishita of readmeanything started live tweeting her reading of 50 Shades of Grey (or better 50 Shades of Bullshit :D) and this female character called Ana Steele seems to be a total disgrace to every responsible and free willed woman. I haven’t read the series because I can’t bring myself to do it, these days my time is a bit too scarce to waste it on those three books when I could be reading something interesting instead. But I’ve read about the books and also held them in my hands just two days ago. I gave up after reading the first half page though because I couldn’t take it.

I believe that 50 Shades of Bullshit is pretty similar to the Twilight series, which I read in a masochistic attempt of wasting time during the height of it’s popularity. Back then I needed to see it with my own eyes to be able to asses it. 50 Shades is kinda like Twilight only with more sex, or at least that is my understanding of it.

I get why women read sex books, I do it too, of course, but there are good one’s out there and bad one’s. Like a decent storyline is a must! I love the kinda sci-fi-crime-novel-sex-book In Death series by Nora Roberts. This series is awesome because I love the Eve Dallas character so much. She is strong and very capable and doesn’t need a man to function, she only wants one. See, to me, this makes a big difference.

Bella was badly written and boring. She transformed herself into a half-dead to spend eternity with a man who glitters in the sunlight. Also, I could never get over the fact that Edward impregnated her. How can he even get an erection when there is no blood actively running through his veins or any other bodily fluid? I was told that this is fiction, and I understand that but I have never heard of a half human half vampire baby before. Sorry. Maybe I took to many science classes in school but it’s just the way my mind works.

Buffy would have staked Edward the second she had the chance to it. Now that is a strong female character I think every girl needs to watch. After all, she saves the world more than once during the run of the show. She did it with the help of her friends even if she had to go against the man she loves and that is a good thing.

Now I’ve rambled on for 500 words and you may ask yourself if this is ever going to end or come back to the title. Well, I hope so :D I grew up around two strong women, my mom and my granny. They taught me that you can be a decent human being without burying your believes because they don’t fit with those of a man or any partner. I learnt that financial independence is a very important thing, one should never be dependent, financial or otherwise! Of course, being in a relationship is a good thing, most of us want it, but you can go on living after it falls apart too.

A woman is as good as any man when it comes to working. Still most women are paid less for performing the same job as men. Such hypocrisy and inequality! I cringe when I think about how hard it was for women to get the right to vote and that it took some of them until the 80s after they were allowed to finally do so (yes, I’m talking about you, Switzerland)! There are probably still parts of the world where women are oppressed, where young girls are believed to be less worthy of an education than boys and that their voice doesn’t count but they do! We are all equal!

I was always very independent, I can stand up to any man and I am proud of it! But it pains me that even in 2012 women have to fight much harder for certain things than men do, that they are paid less. Books like 50 Shades of Grey and Twilight don’t help, they portray women in bad ways, especially to girls and young women when they should be looking up to strong female characters not weak ones who cannot resist a guy because he pulls out his dick and has their way with them.

Me being born a woman goes hand in hand with my being a feminist. I wear this label proudly, I always have even when it wasn’t meant to be a compliment I took it that way. So, I was a feminist before I was anything else because I was raised that way. Nobody told me I couldn’t do anything because I was a girl and that’s how it should be.

Let us all be independent and equal people! Tell your daughters and nieces that they can do whatever they set their minds to! That it is ok to speak up for their believes and opinions! Oh, and don’t raise your sons like machos who think women are their servants! Teach love and respect!

Thank you for reading my rambling nonsense, I needed to vent and this is my platform. See ya!

What is Pinterest?

15 Mar

From the title you may think I’m a fossil. Well, usually I’m not, only on this particular subject. Please help me, what is Pinterest????

I’ve seen it go around Facebook and Twitter but I just don’t really get it. Apparently you can upload pictures and everybody can stick a pin in it, if they agree with it and comment on it. Why would I need this? I’m asking, seriously! I don’t even own a regular pin board, why would I want a virtual one?

I like Facebook and I spend a lot of time there, even when I should be doing other stuff (well that’s the whole purpose of it I think) and I’m no stranger to Twitter. After I got my smartphone, I’m also no stranger to Instagram anymore. But Pinterest? I just don’t know.

Maybe it’s good I’m not interested in it, though, cause with blogging, Twitter, Facebook and studying and working (Jahaa, I am doing something useful from time to time as well! Fell free to be amazed right NOW!) there is not much time left in the days. Oh, I forgot my TV addiction in the previous sentence, probably my biggest time sucker.

Anyway I realize that saying I’m not interested is just temporary. After all, I never wanted to play Farmville, but I ended playing it a lot until I lost interest (thankfully!!). I hope though I will not get infested with the Pinterest-virus.

Pinterest is supposed to be more attractive to women than men, at least when you look at who is using it the most. Does this mean I’m no real women?  Probably not, although it’s not the first time I’m not in sync with the majority of other women. Let me expand:

  • I’m not a big fan of seasonal decoration, why should I go through with the troubles of changing it regularly and what if my ‘normal’ decorations don’t go with them? Am I supposed to throw them out then?
  • I prefer shopping for CDs, Books and Computers over clothes and shoes anytime.
  • I study Engineering.
  • I’m good at math and physics.
  • I never wanted to be a princess while I was growing up. However I wanted to become a P.I.
Then gain, there are the things that let me believe I’m a woman after all^^:
  • Well, there’s the body, can’t deny that fact :D
  • I’m good at baking cakes and bread and whatever it is you can bake.
  • Cooking is ok, not as good as baking but I won’t starve.
  • I do like to wear skirts occasionally.
  • Cheesy, romantic movies are my guilty pleasure, well not all of those out there but the good ones (if there is such a thing).
Looking at the lists makes me ok, I guess not doing whatever everybody else does, may not be a bad sign after all. And not trying to complete my virtual pin-board may actually be a good thing cause it gives me more time to waste on WordPress.
You may ask yourself, what does this have to do with the title? – I dunno. I’m a bit sleep deprived and it seemed to be as good a topic as every other one, so there you go. I’ll try to come up with something better  next time. Until then,
See y’all!

Happy Valentine’s Day…NOT!

14 Feb

Instead, let me wish you a ‘Happy Anna Howard Shaw Day’ or ‘Happy Saint Valentine’s Day Massacre’!

To be honest, I did not come up with those on my own but rather draw inspiration from some beloved TV shows because every one has a Valentine’s Day episode. Naturally the protagonists are not always happily in love, as so many other people are.  ‘Anna Howard Shaw Day’ was taken from 30 Rock, one of my favorite shows. Anyone who has ever watched 30 Rock is not surprised, that Liz Lemon does not believe in this romanticized day, invented by the greeting card companies! She, like me, rather calls herself a feminist, so she can deny the impact of Valentine’s Day in order to celebrates the birthday of an activist for women’s rights! (Until she has a boyfriend that is :D)

I am a feminist, and I wear this label proudly, because I don’t see anything wrong with it. I’ve been like this since school. In grade 12 I choose Virginia Woolf and the question whether she was a role model for the women’s movement of the 1930s in Britain as a topic for my assignment. Needless to say, I aced it! My english teacher was very pleased with the result and it made me his favorite pupil in my year.

Calling myself a feminist also makes accepting the fact of being single or alone easier for me. I tell myself that I don’t need a man to be happy, to feel complete and so on. Bla bla bla. Just the typical rant you tell yourself when you’re single so you won’t feel bad, especially on a day like today, where it’s impossible to watch TV or listen to the radio without being reminded of Valentine’s Day. Blergh!! Then I tell myself: ‘You will not be single next year!’ Ha! The times I told myself this, and it’s never been true.

Instead I should just go into a shooting ranch next year, like Booth and Brennan on season 6 of Bones. I kind of like this idea though I’ve never held a gun in my life. But of course, there are many many things I’ve never done before, so I should start doing them instead of sitting at home writing blog entries to keep myself busy.

The best thing about tonight is though that Cougar Town is finally back on ABC!!! I’m desperate for the new season and to see Big Carl again! For everyone who’s not hooked on the show yet: It is NOT about older women wanting to sleep around with younger men. It’s a show about friendship, drinking whine and just having a great time. It’s simply a bad title, so if you haven’t already, GO CHECK IT OUT!!! Seriously!

With that, I part for tonight. Tomorrow all this talking about love will be over, a new day, new problems. I can’t wait. Till then: Happy Valentine’s Anna Howard Shaw Day Massacre!

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